Films that Matter: Wresting Ghosts


A Dialogue with Rick and Doris Bowman (Bowman Consulting)

ATN accomplished its commemoration of Youngsters’s Psychological Well being Month (Could) and PTSD Month (June) with a remaining screening and dialogue in a three-part sequence of Trauma-Knowledgeable Films that Matter. On June 27, Rick and Doris Bowman of Bowman Consulting joined ATN representatives to steer a dialogue of the movie Wrestling Ghosts. Bowman Consulting is devoted to partnering with organizations, businesses, communities and techniques to supply coaching, teaching, session and help to employees serving kids, youth and adults who wrestle because of trauma, neurodiversity, developmental variations, or psychological well being challenges.

Wrestling Ghosts is a robust and emotionally gripping documentary that follows the journey of a mom as she grapples with the impacts of intergenerational trauma, grief, and guilt. By highly effective storytelling and intimate conversations, the movie captures the uncooked, heartbreaking, and transformational moments on her path to therapeutic advanced trauma. Attendees shared their visceral experiences watching – notably that it was fairly tough to observe and emotionally triggering, however that the mom’s authenticity and braveness to share evoked compassion and offered a deeply intimate and true depiction of intergenerational trauma and struggling. One attendee shared, “I discovered myself in tears as a result of it was triggering emotions for the kid in me that I’m not so certain is as healed as I believed.”

Attendees brazenly described their very own private experiences and each requested for and obtained help and sources from others. One theme that emerged was how childhood trauma impacts the expertise of feelings. One particular person shared how she has saved her feelings locked below tight management: “I don’t like the truth that I can’t present feelings round others like I really feel it’s regular to point out. How are they going to evaluate me? How am I going to say that?” Different attendees echoed such impacts in their very own lives. Rick emphasised that “trauma places us in our head the place we’re at all times overthinking.” He famous that each in his position as a therapist and in his personal remedy classes that questions of “how do you’re feeling about this?” led to a way of “I don’t understand how I really feel about this, however I can inform you what I give it some thought. Trauma can typically take that emotion away.” Doris shared comparable challenges within the means to really feel her personal feelings and famous how useful she has discovered instruments such because the HeartMath approach in transferring feelings from “head to coronary heart” and extra broadly in supporting self-regulation in nerve-racking states and selling total bodily and emotional well-being.

The complexity and weight of intergenerational trauma, proven in an intensely clear method all through the movie, was a outstanding theme within the group’s dialogue. Viewers witness the documentary topic’s personal mom, who’s interviewed briefly sitting alongside her daughter, acknowledge the struggling she brought on her kids and her despair and self-medication makes an attempt. She says, “I needed to be a mom and to boost my kids in another way than my dad and mom did. However I got here from such a dysfunctional household… I do know my mom liked me, however she was a product of her personal extra abusive childhood.” Her ache is clear as she speaks, and we’re reminded of the intermingled love and struggling that makes such cycles throughout generations so tough to interrupt. Trauma tends to make its method era to era partially as a result of people who’ve skilled childhood trauma, on a neurobiological stage, can expertise extra challenges in responding in useful and developmentally acceptable methods to their very own kids. Attendees shared their very own experiences inside intergenerational trauma patterns, notably their intention to do issues in another way for their very own kids, feeling remorse once they felt they failed, and the ability of recognizing incremental progress and therapeutic throughout generations (quotes calmly edited for readability and size):

  • “My son has shared that he has discovered as a father or mother himself that folks who wish to proceed to work on themselves are one of the best dad and mom. That even at my age that I used to be making an attempt to alter issues – he was happy with that. You do catch your self being like your father or mother was in methods you don’t wish to be, however I really feel like I’m doing a greater job. I do see the methods he raises his daughters. It’s wholesome and therapeutic to return and see that and to look ahead… and to provide your self credit score for what you probably did in another way.”
  • “I made a decision that I didn’t wish to do the identical issues that had been damaging to me as a toddler. My daughters are nonetheless breaking the trauma chain, and I really like that they’re discovering locations for progress and loving change with their very own kids and doing issues like co-regulation. I’ve gone again and apologized for (moments I didn’t be ok with), and so they had been so gracious which has helped me forgive myself. They know I did one of the best I might with the trauma background I had.”
  • “I see my daughters doing extra of those attachment-building issues with my grandbabies. Sometimes I’ve a considered remorse about parenting that floats by means of, however I believe ‘they couldn’t have gotten right here, if I hadn’t gotten there.’


As dialogue wrapped up, Julie Beem of ATN described childhood trauma as one thing the place “individuals are both of the opinion it’s best to recover from it shortly otherwise you by no means recover from it.” She famous that the reality is basically within the “messy center” as there may be hope however it isn’t straightforward, and that people keen to have interaction are courageous sufficient to work towards therapeutic. After sharing his personal expertise in addressing and therapeutic his trauma historical past, Rick famous how vital communities and boards like these are for this work, “We have to really feel like we belong. We must be with individuals the place we will cry and share feelings and inform our tales. I’m grateful for this assembly tonight. I’m grateful we will do that.”

Sources –
Try the official Wrestling Ghosts web site to view the movie and to entry sources
Be taught extra concerning the HeartMath approach
Discover the coaching, teaching, session and help choices obtainable by means of Bowman Consulting
Be taught extra about ATN packages, together with free on-line help for fogeys and Workforce R&R for neighborhood educators



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