24 Methods to Keep Grounded & Current This New 12 months – Permitting for extra Connections!


2023 was the primary yr in over 20 years that I haven’t despatched vacation playing cards to colleagues from the workplace. It’s been a busy one; the workplace has transitioned to a brand new digital well being information system, I had COVID-19, and I’ve been with out an assistant for months — so this was my act of self-care. I needed to readjust my duties and expectations as a result of there was a lot happening — and as you understand, time retains transferring both method.

Alas, right here we’re, in 2024.

How can we be current and type to ourselves? How can we be compassionate to ourselves and others? How can we proceed to develop and evolve?

If there’s one factor you’re taking away from at present’s submit, it’s this:


We’re born wired for connection and attachment. And even when that attachment has been harmed in childhood as a consequence of trauma, connection nonetheless heals. Wholesome relationships heal.

In case you are a trauma survivor who has endured attachment and different wounds in your childhood (and ensuing CPTSD in your maturity), I hope that 2024 is a yr the place you join, heal, and expertise the thrill in life. Like Barbara Streisand says, “Individuals who want individuals are the luckiest folks on this planet!” 

Listed below are my needs for you — 24 methods (and one additional!) to remain grounded and current on this new yr:

  1. Settle for that being a sufferer of trauma was not your fault.
  2. Convey compassion into every part you do.
  3. Search for the helpers to maintain you — after which you might change into a helper.
  4. Settle for compliments, discover letting them in.
  5. Tune into, take heed to, and nurture your genuine self.
  6. If you really feel triggered or end up transferring into a well-recognized coping function, say one thing about what you want or how you’re feeling.
  7. Take into account what self-care appears to be like like for you. And get your self some fuzzy slippers. ????
  8. Set boundaries. Set boundaries. Set boundaries. It’s price saying 1000 instances!
  9. Really feel ALL of your emotions, together with the exhausting ones. Permit your self time to expertise two (or extra) feelings at one time. It’s therapeutic to have the ability to maintain that complexity.
  10. Ask for collaborative care out of your healthcare suppliers. You deserve it!
  11. Perceive the place judgment and criticism come from (inner and exterior) so you’ll be able to work in direction of therapeutic.
  12. Get rid of “ought to” out of your life.
  13. Discover your wants with compassion.
  14. Work to note and broaden your window of tolerance.
  15. Cease flashbacks of their tracks.
  16. Observe these 6 methods to calm your nervous system.
  17. Preserve hope alive — and when you’ll be able to’t maintain hope for your self, discover a trauma-informed therapist who will allow you to maintain it till you’ll be able to. (And who may educate you a technique for dealing with the exhausting components of life.)
  18. Undertake a trauma-informed view of life.
  19. Observe making choices, even when every part feels dangerous.
  20. Search for issues to understand. Even when they’re small.
  21. KNOW that you deserve love and concord.
  22. Acknowledge: Is there security in your present relationships?
  23. Embrace this reality: You might be sturdy sufficient to be susceptible.
  24. Respect the time it takes to heal trauma in your journey, and know you make progress day-after-day.
  25. Cease watching the information. Learn your information and handle your information consumption.

My primary hope for you in 2024 is connection — due to the ripple impact it creates. Connections enable us to construct self-compassion, communication, and vulnerability. It wards off despair, anxiousness, habit, disordered behaviors, and loneliness. It builds a protected house the place coping and survival mechanisms like dissociation are much less mandatory. It’s wonderful what connection can provide you, and the way therapeutic it’s.

In the event you want a ebook to begin the yr with, contemplate Collectively:  The Therapeutic Energy of Human Connection in a Generally Lonely World, by Vivek Murthy, MD.

I want you a contented new yr stuffed with well being, love, happiness, and connection!


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